...in heaven
There is something to be said about humor when there's nothing funny about losing a loved one. I believe it is essential in the grieving process & helps one from going completely off the deep end. My dad, who's lapsing ever deeper into dementia, is the brain storm behind today's blog title. I went to visit him after my mom passed. He missed her but meanwhile dad's lunch came and he commented that mom was working hard in the kitchen & cooking up such delicious food. I just agreed and asked my dad did he remember how much mom LOVED spaghetti. He said he did...
I told him when the hospice nurses would walk into mom's room at shift changes, amazed that they were fortunate to care for their "baby girl" another day, I joked that she wasn't leaving until she made a deal with the Big Man upstairs that heaven would be serving up spaghetti.
I guess that deal was made & mom got what she wanted.
My dad sat back in his big easy chair, smiled and said, "spaghetti in heaven...that sounds like the title of a good book." Oh boy...talk about a light bulb moment! I jump off the bed, kissed my dad on his head and told him he was pure genius. I grabbed what ever piece of paper I could find, wrote down his words and smiled. He had such a gleam in his eye and asked if I was going to write a book. I said, "No, but it's a great title to my blog." He had no idea what a blog was, but he was happy none-the-less.
So, I dedicate this space today to my still brilliant dad and my spaghetti lovin' mom.
Happy (memory making) snapping
xo
Kelly
Spaghetti in heaven . . . one can only hope, right? :)
ReplyDeleteThis was such a cute and heartwarming post Kelly...yes, humor and laughter can help us through so much - it's good for the soul!
Humor got my family through my dad's passing quite well... and Spaghetti in Heaven is a great title for a book, a blog, etc... xo
ReplyDeleteIt is a great title and I think you could write a book. Very heart warming post my friend.
ReplyDeleteWoo-hoo! I've been waiting for this "Spaghetti In Heaven" post and it was well worth the wait ..... love it! Love it! Love it!
ReplyDeleteYes, humor is right smack in there with the grief ..... both sneak up on you every now and then. And dang! .... it's okay to laugh. Laugh hard....laugh long. I just love this post! Mwah! xoxoxo
So wonderful Kelly, and what a positive post!! My dad who doesn't have dementia doesn't have a clue about what a blog is either. I gave up trying to explain.
ReplyDeleteAwww this post made my heart smile :) I think that would be a great title for a book! Your spaghetti looks delicious (and as a side note, I love the vintage silverware!). Humor definitely helps in all aspects of life, especially in the grieving process.
ReplyDeleteA wonderful moment you shared with your father. Spaghetti in heaven - I love that.
ReplyDeleteLaughter & humor gets me thru when times are tough, and I am so happy to see that yours is working well. Welcome back, sweets....spaghetti in heaven, perfect title for a book and a perfect memory for you!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a precious moment between you and your Dad. I know both of you are a blessing to each other during this time....Thanks for sharing your heart. I will never think of spaghetti the same way again....
ReplyDeleteYour dad sounds like a sweetheart. I'm glad you found humor and joy during a time of such sadness. I bet she's enjoying a big plate of spaghetti now... in heaven. I love this thought and image.
ReplyDeletea blog is as good as a book - and I agree with your dad - it does sound like a brilliant title for a book (and post). Blessings!
ReplyDeleteBig ol' smile over here. And that would be a great book title!!!
ReplyDeleteAwesome post! Just think now every time you eat Spaghetti you will be reminded of your mom & your dad. God's gives us great memories like that to help ease us through those rough times.
ReplyDeleteDuring my dads sickness and passing I couldn't believe how much we laughed...and often at inappropriate moments! My sisters and mom often wondered what the nurses thought of us! Haha! But laughter and humor became our coping mechanism. Sometimes...ya just gotta laugh :)
ReplyDelete